When your beloved pet dog or cat, a precious member of your family, passes away.
No matter how prepared you are, I think your heart will feel bursting with sadness and loneliness that is indescribable.
When my beloved pet passed away, I couldn't believe it for a while.
When I saw the empty spot where the child was, I thought, "Oh, I see..."
As this realization dawned on me, it felt like a big hole had opened up in my chest.
As a child, I loved to draw, and I would sometimes lie face down on my desk and draw pictures of my child while crying, and sometimes I even wrote secret letters to heaven .
Anyway, once again,
I just wanted to see you one more time.
"I should have given it to you like this."
"If I had done this more, things might have been different."
I also had a lot of regrets, such as:
Because they are irreplaceable, the sadness and heaviness we feel when we lose them is a natural reaction.
Although you cannot actually meet your deceased pet, here are some effective ways to help gradually heal the sadness and pain you feel.
1. Animal communication
Animal communication has recently become a hot topic among animal lovers.
Some of you may have seen it on social media or YouTube.
This is a way to communicate what you're thinking and find out what you want to know through an animal communicator who can talk to animals.
(Heidi from Shimura Zoo is famous, but more and more animal communicators are being born in Japan.)
Trained animal communicators are said to be able to receive messages from photos of animals they have never met.
What's amazing is that you can even talk to deceased pets.
They intentionally use their sixth sense to communicate, which apparently works even with children who have passed away or are far away.
"Were you happy living with us?"
"Is there anything you wish I had done?"
"Is there anything you'd like to tell me?"
It might be a good idea to ask any questions that may be swirling around in your mind along with your regrets, such as:
According to one animal communicator,
Those who have passed away are all worried about their grieving owners, and hope that they will get better soon.
2. Organizing photos and videos
"Organizing" has a mysterious effect of calming and organizing the mind.
When your pet dies, it can be difficult to look at photos and videos of your pet for a while.
There's absolutely no need to force yourself though...
Once you've calmed down a bit, we recommend that you start organizing your photos and videos little by little.
Create a special folder for each child on your smartphone, and then further separate them by age, favorite themes, or categories.
"Smiling," "on a walk," "a common habit," "a silly pose," etc...
There are various photo book services available that allow you to easily create photo books from photos taken on your smartphone, so one option is to give it a try.
You may find yourself unable to stop crying as you look at various photos of your pet when they were alive.
However, seeing their lively appearance will gradually make you realize that "not everything is over."
Rather, "I was able to spend time with such a wonderful person."
"I received so many gifts in the form of the most amazing smiles and love."
"With this as fuel, new days are slowly beginning."
You may begin to feel a vague sense of...
3. Incorporate essential oils into your life
As you know, plants have a variety of beneficial properties.
Not only are they beneficial for human health, but some also have the effect of balancing the mind.
In particular, essential oils (aromatherapy oils), which exert their power through their scent, are easy to incorporate into your life and exert their effects gently.
Here we will introduce three essential oils that can help heal sadness and feelings of loss, and are especially recommended for those suffering from pet loss.
Cypress 
Essential oils that help you accept emotional turmoil and suffering.
The ingredient cedrol also helps regulate heart rate and breathing.
Marjoram 
This essential oil regulates the autonomic nervous system and relaxes the mind and body that have become stiff due to sadness.
It soothes feelings of loneliness and uncontrollable emotions and warms the body.
Sandalwood 
Essential oils that bring you back to your true self.
The ingredient santalol calms mental anxieties and brings inner peace.
Try incorporating these essential oils into your life however you like, by putting them in an aroma diffuser or dropping them on your bedding.
My recommendation is to put a diffuser in the bathroom.
Every time I enter the bathroom, I'm greeted by a soft fragrance that is soothing.
4. Make a stuffed animal
Finally, I would like to wholeheartedly recommend this one.
Making a stuffed toy that looks like a deceased pet,
To hold it close and embrace it,
And crying a lot.
For some reason, stuffed animals that fulfill your wish to "hug someone once more" seem to have a special power.
Here is a quote from a message from someone who made a stuffed animal out of Fluffy.
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I know it's not the child who died.
But just having a stuffed toy that reminds me of that child by my side makes me feel good.
It makes me feel strangely reassured and as if I'm being watched over, and it makes me want to look forward, even if just a little bit.
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The desire to see a pet that has passed away, the sadness, regret, loneliness, and the feeling of having met an irreplaceable person.
Each experience will become a treasure and a cherished memory that belongs to you.
Little by little, little by little is ok.
I hope you will take good care of yourself just as you loved your child who passed away.
